For growing Boys (Son)

 

*🙏 The Indian Father-Son Duo 🙏*

*The Indian father-son duo is indeed a remarkable pair.*

*In any relationship in the world,*

*if there is the least amount of communication,*

*it's between the father and son.*

*For a time, both are strangers,*

*unaware of each other’s aging bodies, then slowly realizing,*

*that they are bound to part forever.*

*When the son,*

*crosses his youth,*

*and moves to the next stage,*

*then here,*

*conversations happen through gestures,*

*or else,*

*the mother mediates between them.*

*The father often tells the mother, go, tell him,"*

*and,*

*the son often asks his mother,*

*"ask dad, will you?"*

*Between these two poles,*

*the mother keeps spinning.*

*When one is somewhere,*

*the other tries*

*not to be there,*

*Perhaps,*

*father and son fear closeness.*

*But the fear is not of closeness,*

*it’s the fear of eventual parting.*

*An Indian father hardly ever tells his son,*

*"Son, I love you immensely."*

*The son also becomes the heir to the father’s immense challenges,*

*because,*

*the father sees his son as Abhimanyu in every moment of life.*

*The father believes,*

*he must become strong and capable,*

*so that the burden of responsibilities*

*does not destroy him.*

*The father thinks,*

*when I am gone,*

*and his mother is also gone,*

*and daughters have moved to their own homes,*

*then, it will be him alone,*

*who must continually, at every step,*

*fight for his family, his livelihood,*

*for his wife, for his children,*

*against challenges and societal complexities.*

*The father knows that,*

*not everything can be discussed at home,*

*thus, he must learn to silently bear his sorrows.*

*He must reduce every massive adversity with his courage.*

*If not, he must sacrifice himself.*

*Therefore, he never shows overt fatherly love,*

*The father knows that,*

*love can make one weak.*

*Often his love comes out as irritation or anger,*

*This anger isn’t due to his son's flaws,*

*it's frustration over swiftly passing time,*

*he knows the uncertainties of his presence.*

*The father wants,*

*that this Abhimanyu shouldn’t perish due to his insufficient teaching,*

*he wants his son to learn quickly,*

*to stop making mistakes,*

*because everyone’s mistakes might be forgiven,*

*but not the leader’s,*

*Here, the leader's fall comes first.*

*Then comes the time when both father and son,*

*start feeling their advancing age,*

*the son not just a son anymore, but also a father,*

*and the chain starts to weaken.*

*The father's desire to teach,*

*and the son's failure to understand this sentiment,*

*he loses even the gentleness,*

*this is the time when the son feels his father is wrong,*

*this period must be navigated wisely,*

*otherwise, nothing happens,*

*just increasing wrinkles and an aging body*

*soon encompassed by illnesses.*

*Then,*

*everyone sees the mother waiting for the son,*

*but behind,*

*the father who stayed awake all night goes unnoticed,*

*his age and wrinkles keep increasing.*

*This is the cycle of time,*

*an aging body in the form of a father watches another aging body from the skies...*